These are 2 of my favourite questions to ask. I’m always amazed by what I can learn by digging into the answers a bit.
Eat, Move, Be Happy is all about helping people be and feel healthier, fitter, happier. Sometimes, to achieve this, we decide we need to change something in our lives. We think, “If only something were different, we would be happy”.
But there is more to this than you think…
Before we can hope to make changes and be happier, we need to know the answers to the above questions. And that is where the story starts…
Self-care is commonly referred to in relation to looking after mental health and wellbeing and is often mis-understood. I have heard it described as being indulgent or selfish, putting personal needs above those of others and as a practise for people who want to spend time alone.
Broadly speaking, self-care is about looking after yourself and it seems like common sense and pretty straight forward doesn’t it?
Human behaviour tells us time and time again that common sense is not so common. There are many examples of seemingly obvious choices that would benefit our health and wellbeing, for example eating less junk food, exercising more frequently and yet we don’t do it. We have looked at why this happens in What is Stopping you from Starting?
Self-care is another classic knowing-doing gap (see Turn Your Plan into Action for more on this). On a basic level it makes perfect sense and not many people would disagree – and yet we don’t always think this applies to us.
This article will help by:
Improving awareness of what self-care is and what it isn’t
Challenging thinking about your current self-care approach
Sharing practical Top Tips on how you can broaden your range of self-care resources and practise it more of the time.
Resilience is often thought of as a quality that some people have and described as the ability to ‘bounce back’. Lots of social and psychological research confirms this is only part of the story.
According to the charity Mind:
“Resilience is not just your ability to bounce back, but also your capacity to adapt in the face of challenging circumstances, whilst maintaining a stable mental wellbeing.”
This makes sense to us at Eat, Move, Be Happy. We would also add resilience is learning from tough experiences, gaining confidence and growing emotionally stronger as a result. We particularly like thinking about resilience as something everyone can develop with practice, rather than a personality trait that people either do or don’t have.
As this time of lockdown continues amid the huge impact of Covid-19 on our lives and lifestyle, I have been struck by the number of times I hear about what life will be like once this is over. Which got me thinking…
When Lockdown is over…
The issue of ‘when lockdown is over’ seems to mean different things to different people. I hear about ‘looking forward to getting back to normal’ and ‘I’m going to keep going with my exercise…’ or ‘I can’t wait for this to all be over’. And in this time of uncertainty, one thing is certain, lockdown and the restrictions that come with it will not be over in the flick of a switch. I think a more accurate way of thinking about this is as lockdown relaxes. However, as the restrictions change this will also bring new levels of uncertainty and take time to adjust.
In the rush to return to normal, use this time to consider which parts of normal are worth rushing back to.
Which raises some interesting questions?
How can we focus on the things that really matter to us and move forwards?
How will we continue with the important things once lockdown relaxes?
How can we get better at living with the uncertainty that impacts our everyday life?
We have all the times that you registered to do something tomorrow, but to be honest, because we are all a bit relaxed and nice people, if you are a bit early/late or do it twice or 3 times, we don’t mind…the key is that you bloody do it! 🙂
We will start the ball rolling at 10:45am with a Movement not Miracles stretch session on the Eat, Move, Be Happy Facebook group and round it all off with a Get Moving session at 5pm on the Get Moving Facebook Group. Anyone can join in with us with these, and it will be great to see you all there and you can be as rude as you want to us in the comments 🙂
There are a number of factors why good intentions to eating more healthily or exercising more never make it to fruition. Maybe you try something once and then give up and go back to what you did before, or you talk yourself out of even starting. And so nothing changes for the long term. This can be disheartening and frustrating.
If this sounds familiar, don’t worry. You are not alone. Eat, Move, Be Happy can help you change this story.
Read on to discover Eat, Move, Be Happy’s 5 top tips for starting and continuing your journey to a healthier lifestyle.
Our philosophy is to:
We believe that we can all achieve fantastic things if we have the confidence to try stuff – and we have some awesome success stories to share. Eat, Move, Be Happy offers a different way of thinking about eating and exercise starting with the question:
Most of us know what we should be doing to have a healthy lifestyle – eat better and exercise more – and yet we don’t do it. Why?
Starting here we help you unravel your current habits around health and wellbeing, including eating and exercise. If you know more about why you do what you do, and how you can practically shift habits to healthier choices, this helps build momentum and confidence to ultimately Eat Better, Move Better and Be Happy(er)!
Habits are the psychological shortcuts that help us get through the day. We form habits when we do the same things regularly. This means we don’t have to spend as much time thinking about what we do and how we do it – we just do it, saving energy and time.
So, accepting that our habits are ingrained (for a reason) and it takes more than pixie dust to shift them to new ones, how do you start?
There are some common barriers to changing our habits – we have talked about these in relation to eating habits before in Eat Better.It actually doesn’t matter what the habit is, the psychological hard-wiring of our behaviour means changing habits is tough.
The first thing to remember is the hardest step is the first step! And you are not alone in this – you are just human.
Some of the common barriers to taking that first step are:
Lack of self-motivation or support – “It seems like so much work, I can’t do this alone…”
Busy schedule, lack of time or not convenient – “I can’t change how I eat right now. The exercise class I want to do doesn’t fit with my schedule. I travel a lot, am rushed off my feet and it’s just not convenient at the moment”
Difficult emotions/mental health – “I’m going through a difficult time in my life right now, I enjoy comfort food and I can’t deal with even more by going on a diet. I cannot face exercise on my own/ with others, I am too self-conscious, they will be better than me, I am not good enough…”
Fear of getting it wrong or looking silly – “I can’t do exercise, I’m not coordinated, balanced, young enough. I will look like a fool! I won’t be as good as other people.”
Inertia – “I’ve always been like this, I’m not going to change now…”
Not wanting to give up current life – “I like socialising with my friends too much!, I have family commitments and they come first”
Lack of knowledge/skills – “I hear so much contradictory advice, I don’t know where to even start!, I cannot commit to 5 hours of exercise a week so what is the point in starting? I am rubbish at sport/ can’t do the technique”
Home environment/family/friends – “I’m surrounded by food, treats and people who are not interested in changing how they eat or exercise”
Too much temptation – “I can hear the chocolates/ TV calling to me!”
Food tastes – “I don’t like the taste of ‘healthy’ food”
Exercise preferences – “I prefer team sports and there aren’t any local teams. I don’t like gyms.”
Putting it off/lazy – “It sounds like hard work, I will start tomorrow. I will start when I can really give it my attention and commit…”
Environmental barriers – “There is nowhere to get healthy food/ do the exercise I enjoy where I live/work”
It’s not high enough on my to-do list – “I already eat and exercise well. I’m not unhealthy. I’m happy as I am.”
Making excuses – Any or all of the above plus countless more…
Understanding which ones relate to you is a start. When you know what you are really dealing with you can better prepare to overcome the barrier. And it is far better to tackle them in smaller chunks rather than try and deal with everything all at once.
We know this can feel daunting. This is where Eat, Move, Be Happy can help you.
Eat, Move, Be Happy Approach
We at Eat, Move, Be Happy know people are better at overcoming their barriers when they have support. Everything is better when you have the support of others! Apart from anything else it is fun to share – your attempts, your successes and also the things that didn’t go according to plan. The encouragement from others is huge in helping keep momentum and in you holding yourself to account for the choices you make.
So out firstTop Tip is:
Don’t go it alone!!!
Our online wellbeing community means you can connect with other people, ask for and offer support, ideas and encouragement and grow together. Plus we are on hand to add our pennyworth from time to time and point you in the direction of resources on the website.
Our secondTop Tip is:
Get your head in the game.
Only you can make the changes you want to make. You have to want to do this – with your heart and your head. They are linked and your head has a strong influence. The Eat, Move, Be HappyMental Health series helps you raise awareness of your psychological wellbeing. With practical tips you can use every day to help you refocus on the things you want to try and the choices you want to make.
Support is on hand, but no one else can do it for you. Being really clear about why making the changes matters is an important step – and working through that with the help of our Eat Better podcast series and Learn & Explore resource will provide a step by step guide to making the change.
Our thirdTop Tip:
Doing something is better than doing nothing.
No matter how long you exercise for and how frequently. Obviously we would encourage you to build up your exercise routine and challenge yourself. We know you will feel so much better physically and mentally when you do.
We believe the key to exercising more is our fourthTop Tip:
It might sound obvious, but you are much more likely to exercise if you enjoy it. Nobody wants to send time doing something they don’t enjoy. And it doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you are active, moving more, getting a bit out of breath on occasion and having fun.
We can help you with structure and a plan for your exercise routine. You can build your own workout from our Workout With Us online video library and plan hassle free training with our written Weekly Workout Plans. And we can help you develop your knowledge and technique with our exercise demos and tutorials. All you have to do is give it a go and try.
And our fifthTop Tip:
The second time is always better !
So we encourage you to try things more than once before you decide something is not worth the effort. Whatever it is.
When we first try something new we are not likely to be great at it – which can feel a bit frustrating. Stick with it, the second time we are more aware of what to expect, always more relaxed and a bit more confident. We know this!
Getting this far is a good way to you making your first step. And remember, the first step is the hardest!
Help keep yourself moving forwards by:
Review the common barriers above and write down the ones that apply to you most frequently. You will then be clearer about what you are dealing with.
Review our Top Tips for overcoming barriers and write down how you will put these into action.
Test Eat, Move, Be Happy to start on the road to your new habits and enjoy a five day free trial. There are lots more ideas and resources to help you start and continueand we think you’ll like what you find, love the results you get and want to stay.
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One of the things we have noticed during this period of Lockdown is the community spirit and creativity from the different people and groups we continue to work with and support with health and wellbeing. And there is a common theme – doing things together is better than doing them alone!
The aim is to complete 6 hours of activity as a relay challenge, starting with a group Movement not Miracles stretch session Live on Facebook and finishing with a Facebook Live Get Moving session.
Each person can register their own 15 minute time slot to involve at least 5 minutes of activity. To get your time slot complete the form below. If you are feeling energetic – and brave, you can register more than one time slot by submitting multiple times. And as this is a challenge it would be great if your activity has an element of personal challenge.
Each time slot will be allocated on a first-come-first-served basis, so choose yours now before it goes!
The aim is to fill each hour with different people completing their challenges. Depending on numbers, there may be more than one person completing their challenge in any time slot. Let’s hope we have lots of people so this happens!!
We will publish the activity schedule so you know who is passing the baton to you and who you are passing the baton on to. And we will keep the Eat, Move, Be Happy Facebook Group updated with progress throughout the day.
You choose your activity challenge, then when you have finished, rest! But don’t forget to send your photos, during or after your activity, to the Eat, Move, Be Happy Facebook Group. We want to make a nice big gallery.
For those creative people amongst you please feel free to make your own baton to show off in the pics. There may be a prize for the most ingenious baton passing idea. Enjoy the challenge!
Yay! Training logs! What an awesome clickbait title we have! This is sure to get people coming here in droves…
OK, so it’s not the most exciting of subjects, but boy, is it an important one. Maybe it’s just the result of my science degree, but I can’t emphasise enough the power of even a small amount of gathered data.
Going back to first principles, our fitness/strength improves through a thing called “Progressive Overload”.
But maybe you just want to know how to easily make your own workouts at home from scratch. No worries! We got you covered! Follow the presentation below to find out exactly how we make some of our favourite workouts and how you can to!